I so think that it would be helpful for your friend to talk to other people from similar backgrounds. It has helped me a great deal and made me feel like less of an alien.

Whatever happens there are obviously problems there. The first thing that is required is for your friend to speak to her parents about the problems. Maybe you could have a word with them. Although I’d be wary of pushing too much, as it is there business in the end. Just be a friend to your friend.

I do have one question. Does she have any thoughts about who her donar father was? If so is there anyway of finding out?

I do hope that you can sort things out as peacefully as possible.

However “out” the family is, I think there’s bound to be some difficulty for adolescents especially who are conceived differently than most of their peers, and pretending their feelings aren’t there or aren’t ‘valid’ is not treating them with the respect everyone deserves.

If she does, then asking to discuss this with her family (and Sarah) privately may open all their eyes to the stress the situation is causing. No mention is made about whether her moms are out in their community — or if they care to be.

Since you know about Sarah’s two moms, it is probable others do too. If a number of your and Sarah’s friends already know (very probable), then a group of you may wish to discuss this with Sarah and her moms.