Comments on: Kids don’t want to meet Mom’s girlfriend. http://familieslikemine.com/2005/07/meeting-moms-girlfriend/ Official Website for Abigail Garner's Book Fri, 25 Jul 2008 10:12:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 By: Laura http://familieslikemine.com/2005/07/meeting-moms-girlfriend/#comment-1793 Laura Sat, 07 Jul 2007 15:27:46 +0000 http://familieslikemine.com/2005/07/meeting-moms-girlfriend/#comment-1793 my partner has two children. her son is 6 and her daughter is 10. her daughter is having a very hard time adjusting to her mother's new lifestyle. this site is just what i was looking for - almost made me cry when i found it. my partner has two children. her son is 6 and her daughter is 10. her daughter is having a very hard time adjusting to her mother’s new lifestyle. this site is just what i was looking for - almost made me cry when i found it.

]]> By: Chris http://familieslikemine.com/2005/07/meeting-moms-girlfriend/#comment-1720 Chris Tue, 29 May 2007 02:25:37 +0000 http://familieslikemine.com/2005/07/meeting-moms-girlfriend/#comment-1720 I can relate some as well. Unfortunately, in my case, I met my girl immediately after she told her husband she wanted a divorce. We actually had our first date before he was even moved out. I guess we ended up hiding it from the kids for about 2 or 3 months, even with me staying over (and waking up at dawn to go "sleep on the couch." Her daughter was 14 and her son was 6 at that time. It wasn't a big surprise to the daughter when she came out, I wasn't exactly that hard to read. She took it pretty well, especially for her age. Her son had some trouble understanding to begin with, and it was even harder because he thought I was a guy for the first week or two I knew him. It's been 4 1/2 years now, of an off-again, on-again relationship. We lived together for about 3 years and I got to be friends of a sort with her daughter .We get along great, but she only lived with us for about 6 months before going to her dads'.... and she's a teenager, so any friendship with mom's boyfriend or girlfriend is usually a little awkward. I got quite close to her son and unfortunately, the breakups have been tough on him as well. We're not together currently, largely because I'm coming out again - as trans, this time. It's not news to her, but it's hard for a lesbian whose girlfriend wants to be her boyfriend, and we need to take some time off. I'm dreading coming out to the kids. Overall, though, from what I've seen, kids can take this sort of news reasonably well. They're adaptable, and at least it's not 50 years ago, right? I can relate some as well. Unfortunately, in my case, I met my girl immediately after she told her husband she wanted a divorce. We actually had our first date before he was even moved out. I guess we ended up hiding it from the kids for about 2 or 3 months, even with me staying over (and waking up at dawn to go “sleep on the couch.” Her daughter was 14 and her son was 6 at that time. It wasn’t a big surprise to the daughter when she came out, I wasn’t exactly that hard to read. She took it pretty well, especially for her age. Her son had some trouble understanding to begin with, and it was even harder because he thought I was a guy for the first week or two I knew him. It’s been 4 1/2 years now, of an off-again, on-again relationship. We lived together for about 3 years and I got to be friends of a sort with her daughter .We get along great, but she only lived with us for about 6 months before going to her dads’…. and she’s a teenager, so any friendship with mom’s boyfriend or girlfriend is usually a little awkward. I got quite close to her son and unfortunately, the breakups have been tough on him as well.

We’re not together currently, largely because I’m coming out again - as trans, this time. It’s not news to her, but it’s hard for a lesbian whose girlfriend wants to be her boyfriend, and we need to take some time off. I’m dreading coming out to the kids.

Overall, though, from what I’ve seen, kids can take this sort of news reasonably well. They’re adaptable, and at least it’s not 50 years ago, right?

]]> By: Anonymous http://familieslikemine.com/2005/07/meeting-moms-girlfriend/#comment-18 Anonymous Wed, 29 Mar 2006 02:08:06 +0000 http://familieslikemine.com/2005/07/meeting-moms-girlfriend/#comment-18 I can relate to this. I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years now and have a 9 year old daughter that I haven't exactly been honest with about my girlfriend "partner" Actually I left my husband for her 2 years ago so it's sort of a little more difficult. I tried to tell my daughter a couple of days ago but it really didn't get any where. I asked her if she knew what it meant to be gay and she said the kids in 4th grade at her "christian" school talked about it. I kind of said well what do you think about me and [my girlfriend] she said well you guys are just friends. I really wanted to tell her but I just wasn't ready. My daughter loves her though, and we do a lot of things together, I too have her every other week and the worst thing about it is that my girlfriend and I keep a distance and we aren't affectionate with each other. Everyone close to me and my family knows that I am a Lesbian and about my girlfriend, even my work place. I really don't care I'm just sensitive about how my daughter will take it. With a divorce still in the works and all the changes she's going through I am being maybe a little too cautious. But I really do love my partner and have every intention of coming out to my daughter. Let me just add that my girlfriend still hasn't come out to her parents, and I find that kind of odd. But I'm working on that too. I'll have to say I'm proud of who I am and of my girl. Even though I sometimes feel like an outsider. She has 6 months, I think that she should really be sure this is the one before she presses on the issue. I have 2 years this is the one for me. I can relate to this. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years now and have a 9 year old daughter that I haven’t exactly been honest with about my girlfriend “partner” Actually I left my husband for her 2 years ago so it’s sort of a little more difficult.

I tried to tell my daughter a couple of days ago but it really didn’t get any where. I asked her if she knew what it meant to be gay and she said the kids in 4th grade at her “christian” school talked about it. I kind of said well what do you think about me and [my girlfriend] she said well you guys are just friends. I really wanted to tell her but I just wasn’t ready. My daughter loves her though, and we do a lot of things together, I too have her every other week and the worst thing about it is that my girlfriend and I keep a distance and we aren’t affectionate with each other.

Everyone close to me and my family knows that I am a Lesbian and about my girlfriend, even my work place. I really don’t care I’m just sensitive about how my daughter will take it. With a divorce still in the works and all the changes she’s going through I am being maybe a little too cautious. But I really do love my partner and have every intention of coming out to my daughter.

Let me just add that my girlfriend still hasn’t come out to her parents, and I find that kind of odd. But I’m working on that too. I’ll have to say I’m proud of who I am and of my girl. Even though I sometimes feel like an outsider. She has 6 months, I think that she should really be sure this is the one before she presses on the issue. I have 2 years this is the one for me.

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