Not quite a “dad,” more than a “donor.”

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I am the donor father for two of my best friends. These friends are both women, and we have decided that I will father a child for both of them. We have also decided that, because we are so close now, I will develop a special “familial” relationship with the children, but not be their “parent”, and they will know that I am their father. We have a one year old little girl now, and we are currently in the process of trying to conceive again. The difficulty that has arisen for us is finding a kinship term for my role in this chosen family. Continue reading Not quite a “dad,” more than a “donor.”

Does a gay father need to officially come out to kids?

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I’m a 31 year old gay father. My two daughters are 5 & 7 years old. Their mother and I separated when my youngest daughter was less than a year old.

I have been with my partner for over 3 years. My daughters have known my partner since he came into my life. He loves them as if they were his own and my children love him as well.

I have never had an actual conversation with my children in an attempt to explain what being gay means, Continue reading Does a gay father need to officially come out to kids?