Comments for Families Like Mine

Comment on Father struggles to accept gay son. by Joe

Joe — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 09:18:47 +0000

You all make me f*****g sick. I am gay and 25 years of age.
Never in my life have I ever read such disgusting, rude, close minded hateful comments. Gays, lesbians, transgendered people DO NOT CHOOSE, DO NOT, to be gay or to have the orientation they have. For many they wish they could change it. When I was 16, every night without fail I locked myself in my room doing drugs and trying to cut into a vein, all because insecure close minded a**holes like you ridicule the different, I did not want anyone knowing what I was for the simple fact it was perceived as unnatural. Let me just tell you coming out was the most heart wrenching yet best experience of my life, I know who loves, cares and truly support me now. My parents said they loved me, LOVED me. Not anymore.

I want to say to every ACCEPTING person on this forum you make gay and lesbian people’s lives so much easier. I have so much respect and if it wasn’t for the great people that see past the orientation, I would be in a coffin in a ground. You make us all feel so welcome and actually accept us for who we were born to be.

Comment on Dealing with a girlfriend’s unaccepting mother. by Lori

Lori — Sun, 22 Jan 2012 16:22:12 +0000

To Susie..you are the problem with America, you are the one leading a disgusting unaccepting lifestyle. We do not choose to be gay. Why would someone choose to live as a social pariah, why would someone choose to deal with intolerant comments from people like you. Parents do learn to accept and embrace children who are gay. Single minded people like you are the ones who make it difficult for people who choose different lifestyles. I feel sorry for you and I will pray for you.

Comment on Is an 11-year-old son ashamed of his gay dad? by Amy

Amy — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 13:33:38 +0000

I am pretty sure that you know deep down that you like guys but you went ahead and married a woman and have a kid with her knowing that you are not turned on by girls anymore so yeah you are pretty much lying and cheating to her the whole time.

If i was your kid, i would question if my dad would have feelings for me because he likes guys, but I’m pretty sure you do and I don’t think you are ashamed of it.

Comment on Message for Teens by dsimmons

dsimmons — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 01:50:59 +0000

I am a teacher, and a lesbian, and a young man came into my classroom yesterday, and asked me, honestly was I a lesbian. And I said yes… it seems it was the right thing to say, as he responded, yeah, my mom is a lesbian. Apparently, the transition for child of heterosexual marriage to child of divorced parents, with now lesbian mom, has been very difficult for this young man to deal with.

Comment on A young daughter of lesbians questions what is “normal.” by J.R.

J.R. — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 08:39:05 +0000

As the now 30 year old son of a lesbian family, I can tell you all from experience that what you are putting your kids through can be excruciating. I hate to tell you all this, but there is not pot of gold at the end of this rainbow… just therapy. Explaining my family’s “special” dynamic to people was uncomfortable at best, even when explaining to the most understanding of audiences. As a teenager until a few years after high-school, I was distant from even my closest friends. Though I’m sure everyone knew about my family, it’s nothing we ever spoke of. Sugar coat it however you all like, but rest assured; no matter how “normal” you tell yourselves, or your children that your relationship is… it is anything but. The untold psychological distress you’re putting your children in, is nothing short of negligence. As a parent of a 7 year old daughter, I’d sooner die than put my child through what yours are destined for… but as long as you’re happy, I suppose that will have to do for now.

Comment on Why is an 11-year-old daughter so angry around her transgender dad? by Cayla Marie

Cayla Marie — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 06:19:03 +0000

Well I’m glad I read this. I’m a 28 year old transgendered woman, and also the father of a 3 year old girl. It’s unimaginably hard to deal with. I’ve only been taking hormones for 2 months, and haven’t dressed in front of her yet. I’m sorry to hear that so many children of transgendered dads are so miserable. The last thing I want is to pass my misery onto my daughter. But at the same time, if I stop my transition now, and try to continue my life as a man until the day I die. I will live this entire life without ever knowing happiness. Suicide has crossed my mind a million times as it is. If I throw away these hormones I just bought (which make me feel blissfully at peace for once), throw away the new clothes I just bought, and forget about EVER being my TRUE self.. then I’ll continue to grow more depressed as each day passes, until my loneliness will one day get the better of me, and I’ll finally take my last breath in this miserable existence.

Comment on “My mother is gay, but she does not know I know.” by kathy

kathy — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 00:52:11 +0000

my girlfriend has a teenage daughter who refuses to allow her mother to have a girlfriend. Her mom gives in to the teenager constantly and did with this too, telling me that how her daughter felt was more important than what she wants. But what about who I want?

Comment on Gay father seeks to end decade of silence with his daughter. by Kaitlyn

Kaitlyn — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 01:04:10 +0000

Imagine your dad (who was everything and you thought of as perfection) coming out the year before your to be married. Now I’ll be walking down the aisle alone…

Comment on Her father’s sexual orientation is the “elephant in the livingroom.” by Vivek

Vivek — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 15:52:46 +0000

I do wish all the so-called “straight” (as opposed to what? Crooked?) people stop behaving like being gay was so weird/wrong/bad/shameful/sinful/whatever, e.g. talking about “incriminating evidence”.. I mean what the heck? He’s not a criminal for God’s sake! If this pure-hearted “normal” society of ours would just accept gays, then they wouldn’t be forced to remain in a closet or get married to conform in the first place.

Comment on Can these mommies get their groove back? by Mina

Mina — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 17:49:39 +0000

@Taran: Does your girlfriend acknowledge your relationship with other parents at playgroup/school or with friends and family? I’m confused as to why she’s chosen to share her life and parent her child with a woman if she thinks it is wrong. Our three and a half year old is very open at school about our situation and is actually quite proud she has two mums, because no one has ever taken issue with it. If she’s taught to be ashamed of you now, the older she gets the less chance you have of a ‘proper’ mother-daughter relationship.