Category Archives: Acceptance / Rejection

Mom kisses woman. Daughter moves out.

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I am a 19 year old college student. I love my mom but hate her at the same time. She has three kids, has been married twice and all of her relationships have been with men. All my life my mother and I have been really close. Three weeks ago, I caught her kissing a woman from her work and we got in a big fight. She said that it made her happy. I am so ashamed and we haven’t talked since.

I miss her. The other day we both broke down and cried. Now she says she is not a lesbian. Yet this other woman sleeps at my house. Continue reading Mom kisses woman. Daughter moves out.

Dealing with a girlfriend’s unaccepting mother.

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I am 22 and four years ago I came out as lesbian to my parents. Let’s just say it didn’t go as planned. I had always been extremely close to my family, but when I told them I was gay, everything changed. I had to get a job to support myself and pay for college. It was a very tough time for me.

Seven months ago I met this really nice girl at work. We started going out as friends. She confessed she liked me as more than friends and by then I was having strong feeling for her as well. Continue reading Dealing with a girlfriend’s unaccepting mother.

Three queer daughters contemplate coming out.

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I’m a college student and I came out to my parents three years ago. They already “knew,” but they didn’t start dealing with it until I actually said “I’m a big ol’ protesting, processing, vegetarian, co-habitating, granola-dyke lesbian.”

At first they didn’t take it well and went through various stages of grief and self blame, but they have started to come around and now they can even act like normal human beings when we go out to dinner with my girlfriend.

One of the reasons I wanted to come out to my parents is because I knew my younger sister, still in high school, is gay too. Continue reading Three queer daughters contemplate coming out.

Should a lesbian mother and her partner keep their hands to themselves?

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My mom is a [recently out] lesbian and I approve of her lifestyle. However I really don’t want to see [my mom and her partner] being affectionate with each other. I know it sounds like a double standard, but this is my mom…and that’s very hard for me to deal with. Do you have any advice??? Continue reading Should a lesbian mother and her partner keep their hands to themselves?

Gay father seeks to end decade of silence with his daughter.

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I came out when my daughter was in high school. She has terminated all contact with me since that time. It has now been ten years since we have had any real substantive conversation. Do you suppose that she will ever come to terms with this issue and move on in her life?

— Gay Dad with Lingering Pain Continue reading Gay father seeks to end decade of silence with his daughter.

How will the “in-laws” react to a religious commitment ceremony?

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My partner of six years and I are planning to go to Vermont for a civil union ceremony. We are very close to all the members of his family, and they have always been very welcoming to me.

His parents are very strong Catholics, while Steve long ago rebelled against anything the Catholic Church stood for. I am a very strong Presbyterian. Continue reading How will the “in-laws” react to a religious commitment ceremony?