Category Archives: Divorce/Custody

Should a gay dad’s former wife still attend family events?

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I’m a gay father of a six-year-old son. I came out four years ago, and his mother and I remain best friends. My parents wish to keep my ex-wife involved in family gatherings, even when my partner is there. I am caught in the middle, trying to ensure my partner is okay with my ex-wife being there, and making sure that my ex-wife doesn’t feel excluded from my family for my son’s sake. I’m generally okay with both of them being included, but I don’t know if it should continue forever. Should we lessen the occasions to ease confusion with others? Continue reading Should a gay dad’s former wife still attend family events?

Kids don’t want to see their lesbian mother.

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I am a 39 year-old mom of two daughters, 15 and 10, who are less than pleased with my recent revelation that I’m lesbian. They thought our family was the 90’s equivalent of the Cleavers.

Their dad and I divorced five months ago without a clear-cut custody order, wishfully thinking we would be able to develop our own parenting plan. The girls have basically shunned me Continue reading Kids don’t want to see their lesbian mother.

Lesbian Mother co-parenting with homophobic ex-husband.

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I have a ten-year-old girl and a seven-year-old boy. I am a lesbian mom in a four year relationship with the most wonderful person I have ever met. My little girl is the only child actually clued in and her response was, “Well, is that all?” But she does fear being the only child with a gay parent.

Our main problem is the ex-husband’s homophobic beliefs and the confusion it causes the children. Continue reading Lesbian Mother co-parenting with homophobic ex-husband.

Should I shelter my children from their lesbian mother?

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My wife has decided after 17 years of marriage, that she wants a divorce. She would not admit the reason for her wanting a divorce and came up with various excuses. Finally her attorney admitted in court that my wife is a lesbian. Since then she reluctantly admitted it to me, but not to our three teenagers.

Do I push her to admit her new lifestyle to the children? Do I fight for custody to shelter the children from this? Continue reading Should I shelter my children from their lesbian mother?