Category Archives: Teenagers with LGBT parents

Children resist lesbian mothers’ urge to merge.

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My partner and I have just purchased our first home together. We are extremely excited about this move since we have been living in separate apartments for over eight months.

The problem arises with the different levels of acceptance our children have about our decision to live together. They range in age from 21 to 13. Her two oldest sons — both over 18 — will not be joining us in our new home. They are extremely homophobic and vocally oppose our plan. Continue reading Children resist lesbian mothers’ urge to merge.

Should a transsexual parent and her teen daughter relocate?

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I am a male-to-female transsexual who underwent surgery last November. Since my transition, my 13-year-old daughter is having some issues with the kids at school. They have started asking her about me on a daily basis. She is very upset about it.

The school social worker says we should move to a new community where they don’t know us because she thinks that it will get worse when my daughter enters high school. What do you think? Should we move? Continue reading Should a transsexual parent and her teen daughter relocate?

Kids don’t want to meet Mom’s girlfriend.

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My girlfriend of six months is mother to a son (13) and daughter (15). Until she met me, she had not been involved with anyone since her divorce 10 years ago.

Her children are very much against our relationship and are very adamant about not meeting me. My girlfriend is respecting their wishes, so I only get to see her every other week — when the kids are with their father. We are feeling very frustrated and resentful towards the kids. Continue reading Kids don’t want to meet Mom’s girlfriend.

“Kids at school are asking if my mom is a lesbian.”

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My mother just told me that she is a lesbian and that she has a girlfriend. It’s a lot of stress just finding out, but what’s more difficult is that everybody at school has always asked me if my mom is a lesbian. Whenever people asked, I would defend her and say she was not.

Now that she has told me she really is a lesbian, I don’t know what to do. Should I tell people the truth when they ask, or should I go on protecting my mom?

— 14-year-old daughter in Southern California Continue reading “Kids at school are asking if my mom is a lesbian.”

Mother to tell daughter: “I’m not gay but my girlfriend is.”

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I am a 39 year old single “straight” mother with a 12-year-old daughter. I have always had a lot of boyfriends and am a typical attractive feminine professional woman. For the past year and a half I have been in a relationship with an “openly” gay woman who is very attractive, feminine, and professional.

I do not consider myself “gay” or “bisexual” so I’m not quite sure how to explain my relationship with this woman to my daughter. Continue reading Mother to tell daughter: “I’m not gay but my girlfriend is.”

Teen afraid to ask about biological father.

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I am a 17-year-old daughter of a lesbian couple. There is me, my biological mom, my other mom and her two kids from a previous marriage. My parents had been together about 8 years before I was born.

I don’t know my father, his name, heritage, or anything. I can only remember one time the topic of my father really came up in conversation. Continue reading Teen afraid to ask about biological father.