Category Archives: Coming Out to Children

How should a lesbian aunt come out to her nieces?

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I am a lesbian, and I am wondering how to help my sister talk to her kids about my partner and me. My nieces, ages 5 and 9, used to come spend one weekend a month with me, but since my partner moved in, my sister won’t allow them to stay with us.

After going through a litany of excuses, my sister has admitted that she is not sure how to explain our relationship to the kids. Continue reading How should a lesbian aunt come out to her nieces?

Does a gay father need to officially come out to kids?

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I’m a 31 year old gay father. My two daughters are 5 & 7 years old. Their mother and I separated when my youngest daughter was less than a year old.

I have been with my partner for over 3 years. My daughters have known my partner since he came into my life. He loves them as if they were his own and my children love him as well.

I have never had an actual conversation with my children in an attempt to explain what being gay means, Continue reading Does a gay father need to officially come out to kids?

Dad wants to come out to his 11-year-old son. Mom doesn’t think he should.

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My son is 11 years old. His father and I are divorced. My ex-husband has a life partner and is pretty stable in his relationship. Father and son are close as well.

My son does not know his father is gay. I have been talking to my son about acceptance of gays, but he still thinks it is “gross.” I have tried to put a positive slant on same-sex relationships with no success. Continue reading Dad wants to come out to his 11-year-old son. Mom doesn’t think he should.

Should a gay uncle come out?

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I have a friend who is married with four kids. He is planning to tell his gay brother that he doesn’t want his kids knowing that their uncle is gay. Isn’t it better to tell them instead of hiding it from them? Kids are very accepting of this these days, aren’t they? Does it confuse the kids? I love both of these guys like my own brothers and I want to intelligently help them. Continue reading Should a gay uncle come out?

Should I shelter my children from their lesbian mother?

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My wife has decided after 17 years of marriage, that she wants a divorce. She would not admit the reason for her wanting a divorce and came up with various excuses. Finally her attorney admitted in court that my wife is a lesbian. Since then she reluctantly admitted it to me, but not to our three teenagers.

Do I push her to admit her new lifestyle to the children? Do I fight for custody to shelter the children from this? Continue reading Should I shelter my children from their lesbian mother?