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How to handle non-gay-affirming relatives who have contact with children.

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I am a mother in the process of coming out. My own mother and brother are not accepting at all. My brother has in fact asked that I have no contact with him or his family. My mother, while not local, does visit and I know full well she is going to probe my kids with questions that are personal, and in so doing will leave them wondering “what’s wrong?” Continue reading How to handle non-gay-affirming relatives who have contact with children.

Kids don’t want to see their lesbian mother.

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I am a 39 year-old mom of two daughters, 15 and 10, who are less than pleased with my recent revelation that I’m lesbian. They thought our family was the 90’s equivalent of the Cleavers.

Their dad and I divorced five months ago without a clear-cut custody order, wishfully thinking we would be able to develop our own parenting plan. The girls have basically shunned me Continue reading Kids don’t want to see their lesbian mother.

Does a gay father need to officially come out to kids?

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I’m a 31 year old gay father. My two daughters are 5 & 7 years old. Their mother and I separated when my youngest daughter was less than a year old.

I have been with my partner for over 3 years. My daughters have known my partner since he came into my life. He loves them as if they were his own and my children love him as well.

I have never had an actual conversation with my children in an attempt to explain what being gay means, Continue reading Does a gay father need to officially come out to kids?