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My daughter is 10 years old and I have been with my lesbian partner for four years. My daughter’s father and I separated six years ago and we remain friends.
My daughter is having problems at school. When she drew a picture of her family, she drew two stepmothers, a mom and a dad. Kids asked her about the additional women in the drawing, and without thought she said “those are my stepmoms.”
Now the kids in school make fun of her for having a lesbian mom and they say she is gay, too. Continue reading Drawing the honest family portrait in grade school →
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I am a stepmother with two kids (ages 13 and 10) who I love as my own. Their mother — my husband’s former wife — is a lesbian in a committed relationship. Here’s where I’m at a loss: She refuses to talk to the kids about her sexual orientation despite the fact that her partner has lived in their house for several years. Continue reading A stepmother wonders about her stepkids’ closeted mom. →
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Last week my wife of 27 years told me she was a lesbian, is having an affair and is leaving. Everyone — our gay friends, straight friends, her coworkers who know and my coworkers who know — all believe she is a lesbian.
I don’t think she is. We had great intimacy. We were truly best friends — or so I thought — and so she said. We loved each other in the truest marital sense — not just the sex. Continue reading “Is my wife really gay?” →
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My wife came out last year and a divorce was finalized two months ago. We had both been married before, and our blended family includes five grown children — all in their 20s.
My wife says she doesn’t want to tell any of the kids because the reason for the divorce is “none of their business.” She doesn’t want me to tell anyone either since it might get back to the kids somehow. Continue reading 4 of the 5 grown kids don’t know Mom is gay. →
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I am a 39 year-old mom of two daughters, 15 and 10, who are less than pleased with my recent revelation that I’m lesbian. They thought our family was the 90’s equivalent of the Cleavers.
Their dad and I divorced five months ago without a clear-cut custody order, wishfully thinking we would be able to develop our own parenting plan. The girls have basically shunned me Continue reading Kids don’t want to see their lesbian mother. →
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I have a ten-year-old girl and a seven-year-old boy. I am a lesbian mom in a four year relationship with the most wonderful person I have ever met. My little girl is the only child actually clued in and her response was, “Well, is that all?” But she does fear being the only child with a gay parent.
Our main problem is the ex-husband’s homophobic beliefs and the confusion it causes the children. Continue reading Lesbian Mother co-parenting with homophobic ex-husband. →
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My wife has decided after 17 years of marriage, that she wants a divorce. She would not admit the reason for her wanting a divorce and came up with various excuses. Finally her attorney admitted in court that my wife is a lesbian. Since then she reluctantly admitted it to me, but not to our three teenagers.
Do I push her to admit her new lifestyle to the children? Do I fight for custody to shelter the children from this? Continue reading Should I shelter my children from their lesbian mother? →
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