My girlfriend is telling me that we can never be together because of her kids (ages 11 and 2). Our relationship began seven months ago, but we were friends first. This is her first gay relationship. She has told me that she has never been happier in her life, but she just can’t do it because of the kids. I told her she should come out to the kids, and she sounded scared to death to even think about it. Plus, she won’t talk to anyone else about this.
It makes me feel as if she is ashamed of me in public, but in love with me in private. Continue reading In love with a parent in the closet.
My daughter is 10 years old and I have been with my lesbian partner for four years. My daughter’s father and I separated six years ago and we remain friends.
My daughter is having problems at school. When she drew a picture of her family, she drew two stepmothers, a mom and a dad. Kids asked her about the additional women in the drawing, and without thought she said “those are my stepmoms.”
Now the kids in school make fun of her for having a lesbian mom and they say she is gay, too. Continue reading Drawing the honest family portrait in grade school
My partner’s six-year-old came home from school and was so riled up. We asked her if there was anything she wanted to talk about. She started crying and said that she was embarrassed that she has two moms. She was barely able to get the words out because she was sobbing so hard. She said that it’s normal for her dad to get divorced and have a girlfriend, but not for her mom. She said, “this is not normal.”
She said she has been feeling embarrassed since she started school. Continue reading A young daughter of lesbians questions what is “normal.”
I have a ten-year-old daughter who has a hard time answering her friends when they ask the question, “Do your moms sleep in the same bed?”
She is choosing to fib and say that one of us sleeps on the couch. Most of the parents of our daughter’s friends know about our two-mom house, however many of those parents have not talked to their own children about it. What’s the best approach? Continue reading A lesbian couple’s daughter deflects questions about sleeping arrangements.
I am a stepmother with two kids (ages 13 and 10) who I love as my own. Their mother — my husband’s former wife — is a lesbian in a committed relationship. Here’s where I’m at a loss: She refuses to talk to the kids about her sexual orientation despite the fact that her partner has lived in their house for several years. Continue reading A stepmother wonders about her stepkids’ closeted mom.
I am a 24-year-old heterosexual woman. Last year I placed my son for adoption with a fantastic lesbian couple who have been together for 20 years. While the decision was very difficult, I know I made the right choice for everyone.
We agreed to an open adoption. Now my biggest problem is that my own parents don’t know any of this. I stopped talking to them right before I got pregnant, and was afraid to reconnect with them before I gave birth. Continue reading A birth mother’s secret: She chose two mommies to adopt her son.