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I am a male-to-female transsexual who underwent surgery last November. Since my transition, my 13-year-old daughter is having some issues with the kids at school. They have started asking her about me on a daily basis. She is very upset about it.
The school social worker says we should move to a new community where they don’t know us because she thinks that it will get worse when my daughter enters high school. What do you think? Should we move? Continue reading Should a transsexual parent and her teen daughter relocate? →
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My daughter is 10 years old and I have been with my lesbian partner for four years. My daughter’s father and I separated six years ago and we remain friends.
My daughter is having problems at school. When she drew a picture of her family, she drew two stepmothers, a mom and a dad. Kids asked her about the additional women in the drawing, and without thought she said “those are my stepmoms.”
Now the kids in school make fun of her for having a lesbian mom and they say she is gay, too. Continue reading Drawing the honest family portrait in grade school →
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My partner’s six-year-old came home from school and was so riled up. We asked her if there was anything she wanted to talk about. She started crying and said that she was embarrassed that she has two moms. She was barely able to get the words out because she was sobbing so hard. She said that it’s normal for her dad to get divorced and have a girlfriend, but not for her mom. She said, “this is not normal.”
She said she has been feeling embarrassed since she started school. Continue reading A young daughter of lesbians questions what is “normal.” →
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My mother just told me that she is a lesbian and that she has a girlfriend. It’s a lot of stress just finding out, but what’s more difficult is that everybody at school has always asked me if my mom is a lesbian. Whenever people asked, I would defend her and say she was not.
Now that she has told me she really is a lesbian, I don’t know what to do. Should I tell people the truth when they ask, or should I go on protecting my mom?
— 14-year-old daughter in Southern California Continue reading “Kids at school are asking if my mom is a lesbian.” →
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We are gay fathers of twins through surrogacy. Our son and daughter are now three and a half years old. We have almost no contact with the surrogate — something we established by mutual choice before the pregnancy.
With Mother’s Day approaching, we are wondering how to prepare their nursery school teachers to deal with the situation. Continue reading How should two dads celebrate Mother’s Day? →
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I am a child care provider. My question is about how to interact with the children in my care who have a lesbian mother. The boys are 20 months and 2 1/2 years old. I did not know that their mother was a lesbian when they started in my care. It was brought to my attention by their aunt.
These brothers are always hugging and kissing each other, but I never thought anything of it. Continue reading Brothers’ “inappropriate” behavior at daycare. →
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My partner and I have an 8-year-old daughter. She has just recently told a couple of her friends that we are lesbians. Our daughter is very active in school functions: cheerleading, softball and dance. I am going to help coach her cheerleading squad this fall. The coach and a couple of parents are aware that we are gay and have no problem with it.
But kids can be cruel. What is the best advice we can give her on how to handle any teasing that may happen since she is starting to “out” us? Continue reading Our eight-year-old is outing us — and getting teased. →
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