My mother is gay, but she does not know I know. About two years ago at Christmas I found a card from her “roommate”, stating she has a hard time when the kids are around because she cannot express her feelings towards my mother.
This letter did not come as a big shock to me, since they have been living together for seven years. I guess my question is, should I just leave well enough alone? Or would it be better to get this out in the open? Continue reading “My mother is gay, but she does not know I know.”
My partner and I have an 8-year-old daughter. She has just recently told a couple of her friends that we are lesbians. Our daughter is very active in school functions: cheerleading, softball and dance. I am going to help coach her cheerleading squad this fall. The coach and a couple of parents are aware that we are gay and have no problem with it.
But kids can be cruel. What is the best advice we can give her on how to handle any teasing that may happen since she is starting to “out” us? Continue reading Our eight-year-old is outing us — and getting teased.
I am the donor father for two of my best friends. These friends are both women, and we have decided that I will father a child for both of them. We have also decided that, because we are so close now, I will develop a special “familial” relationship with the children, but not be their “parent”, and they will know that I am their father. We have a one year old little girl now, and we are currently in the process of trying to conceive again. The difficulty that has arisen for us is finding a kinship term for my role in this chosen family. Continue reading Not quite a “dad,” more than a “donor.”
I have a ten-year-old girl and a seven-year-old boy. I am a lesbian mom in a four year relationship with the most wonderful person I have ever met. My little girl is the only child actually clued in and her response was, “Well, is that all?” But she does fear being the only child with a gay parent.
Our main problem is the ex-husband’s homophobic beliefs and the confusion it causes the children. Continue reading Lesbian Mother co-parenting with homophobic ex-husband.
I am 27 and I have tried to explain to my mom why sometimes my life is difficult because she is a lesbian. I can’t make her see my point of view at all. She said, “You know, I honestly can’t think of a time in my entire life where my own parents’ sexuality could possibly have arisen as a topic of conversation!”
What would you have said to that? Sometimes I just get a little too close to see it all clearly. Continue reading A lesbian mother doesn’t want to talk about it.
My wife has decided after 17 years of marriage, that she wants a divorce. She would not admit the reason for her wanting a divorce and came up with various excuses. Finally her attorney admitted in court that my wife is a lesbian. Since then she reluctantly admitted it to me, but not to our three teenagers.
Do I push her to admit her new lifestyle to the children? Do I fight for custody to shelter the children from this? Continue reading Should I shelter my children from their lesbian mother?